Why I Think About My Own Death Everyday

I don’t want to live my life scared to live, and when I die, I don’t want to fear death.

We spend so much of our lives waiting for our lives to begin – we plan, hope, dream, and wish – that most of us don’t enjoy the “now-ness” of life and live it.

We yearn and strive for a better life, and in this process we forget to live.

A couple of years ago, I lost several friends to cancer, and had many people contact and work with me because they were terminally ill.

I also assist many people with death; I help people dying to die peacefully, and I help people that have died transition into the light, so compared to most people I deal with death and dying much more.

This is why I reflect on my own death everyday because dying is a part of my life. But also because I know that if I reflect on the impermanence of my life and the fragility and “fleeting nature” of my physical body, it keeps everything in perspective for me.

It reminds me that my personality, possessions, achievements, successes and struggles are not who I am. They are a part of our mortal life on earth but they are transitory and “passing,” and in essence, not who we really are.

Everything I accumulate I can’t take with me: My house, qualifications, beloved furniture, body and achievements. These all belong to the earthly life and must stay behind.

People that have passed-over tell me this all the time. They say, “If only I had been less attached to things, less worried, fearful and stressed. I spent so much time waiting for my life to begin, that I never truly lived!”

Rarely do the “dead” have regrets about what they didn’t achieve or become, but they often regret “not truly living.”

This is why I reflect on my own mortality and the impermanence of my life everyday. I want to be embrace the now-ness of life and live it, and I want to step out of the crazy egoic struggle of constant striving for more.

Most people plan and wish for a beautiful life but in this striving miss the beauty of life. And I don’t want to lose myself to the madness of yearning for more. I want to be enough, now!

I want to embrace the fullness and depth of life, and that is why I think about my own death everyday; this aligns me with my soul.

And then all the non-important, not-who-I-truly-am things fall away, and I feel enlivened and blissful.

One week before one of my friends passed away, we spoke on the phone. It was hard to understand her because her breathing was laboured and she was struggling to move her mouth.

I asked her if she felt at peace with her death and if she was frightened of dying. She said, “Belinda, I’m not frightened of leaving my body and I’m not in pain but I’m scared that I didn’t live my purpose here on earth. I fear that I missed out on becoming who I was destined to be.”

I assured her that she had achieved that, and told her that she didn’t need to hold onto living in a cancer riddled body because she was scared she hadn’t done enough, or been enough.

I encouraged her to surrender to life, now, and to accept her fears that she has missed out on living her purpose. As I took her through a “process,” I could feel the shift in her energy, and then suddenly, her entire aura was flooding with White Light.

I knew then that she was able to surrender to death and life after it, and I knew she would die soon and peacefully. And that is what happened.

Most of us are frightened to think about our impending death, but I find it liberating. It soothes me.

in White Light + Love,

Belinda

P.S. Want to read an amazing book about death, dying and life after death? Read Anita Moorjani’s book Dying to be Me. This incredible women died and came back to life, and in her profound book describes to us life after death and shows us how to release the fear of death and truly live.